Hey gals… *sigh..* I’m glad to blog again today after I’ve settled my own personal problem for a whole month *smiles* everything is back to usual now, in fact is even better than before. Cheers!
Somehow… after what I’ve been through recently, I realized that almost all ladies MUST have these 7 Tips in order to survive in the modern world today. I mean, DON’T ever think that ‘Oh.. is ok…I’m just gonna find a perfect husband and he’ll take good care of me in future.’If any of you are having this kind of thinking, I’m sorry to tell you that 80% of your dreams will be crushed and will end up like a helpless abandoned kitty inside a cage away from the world.
First of all…I’m going to touch the 3 top important things to have among the 7 Tips.
A)A good job –
In this modern society now… more ladies are climbing up the career ladder and they can actually bare the same amount of stress like men do. Why? You can say is due to our down falling of world economy. 1 Income in a family wouldn’t have enough to have a good comfortable life. Everything tangible or intangible are increasing in price each year. There is no decreasing of price I’ve heard so far... it just goes up and up… To be more frank… we can’t depend all 100% on men for income as you know… not all beasts out there are willing to share their food with his beauty. What if they have more beauties to share with? *smiles* get what I mean?...
A good job for a middle class career lady must at least hit the position of managerial level with the income of far most 4.5K and above. That is consider the minimum. If you’re earning lower than that, well, is time to increase our knowledge and climb up further the ladder.( which I’m going to express later in the topic).
B)Car –
As we know... public transport in our place S*%! Unless you
would love to wait for 2 hours for the bus to your work place everyday and
same goes with after work. And… I’ve not mentioned being have to cramped
up like sardines in a can, get free variety smells of B.O. around you, and the
worst part is being taken advantage to be touched all over you by perverts!
It doesn’t have to be a cool luxurious car, for economical car, a small size
Kancil Perodua will do to travel around. Worried of getting lost in town?
There is always solution for everything. Get a “GPS” is world wide satellite
talking map, and you don’t have to worry a single bit even you’re driving out
of your own State.
C)Place To Stay –
For newly graduate ladies, renting a room is fair enough.
But as our age goes up to 25… we will need our own space and property
for future, so considering to loan a condominium is a wise idea for
long term investment unless if staying with family is your choice because
there were local girls around too. After all having daily home cook food after
home from work is just great *smiles*
After these 3 needs, I’m moving to the rest of survival tips that needed improvement
For a modern single lady.
D)Strong & Independent –
The main point in this fact is having good self confidence.
How does it relate? Never keep in mind that you are just a little lady and
“oh, I can’t do a lot of tough things like men do” Excuse me lady, may I know what kind of tough things? Changing light bulbs, drilling on wall to hang a picture, carry heavy stuffs, ?? I’m not bragging here, but I do all these alone by myself. What is so hard to climb up a ladder to change a bulb? What is so hard of drilling a hole on the wall? There are many mini size light weight driller sold in the hardware shop nowadays. And heavy stuffs, furniture? Pay the moving transporter man to do it or if you’re going to shop some big thing out there, always asked if it includes transport. If No, I’m sure in your phone lists there are many friends available to help you out. I’m not saying to make use of you friends as your stuff carrying man,just tell them you need help that’s all. Am sure sincere friends are all willing to lend out a helping hand.
Either than being independent, ladies out there are prone to some dangers. As you
Know… the security around our country is not really good, so SELF DEFENCE Is a must for us. I’m not trying to say take up martial arts kungfu class or karate,Judo, whatever :p Ladies, our bag is our self defense pouch. Keep it safe from snatch thieves. Whenever you are walking alone out there, hug your bag infront of you. When you’re driving, keep your bag under your car seat. DO NOT put at the passenger seat beside you or behind you. Motorcyclist snatch thieves will just smash your car glass and took it away from you easily.
Now this is the interesting part. Inside our bag.. make sure there are 3 things inside. Pepper spray, Pen size torch light, portable security alarm. For pepper spray,you can always hang it together with your car keys. Easy to grab, and when you’re at parking lot about to open up your car door the spray is always in your hands. Pen size torch light is my favourite thing! *smiles* whenever you’re stuck in trap lifts with no lights on, or in some dark places… trust me, the little light can really calm yourself down. Besides, it is pretty handy in cinema when you wanted to catch a movie by yourself. Guaranteed no slipping down the staircase of cinema *smiles*.Portable security alarm is pretty useful when put it into your pocket or stick it close to the inside of your handbag. If there are any perverts that try to take advantage of you whenever you are quite far away from security, just press it, and everyone far away will be looking directly at you. But if you were in quite and less people places, is a lot better to use the pepper spray in your hands. At least is faster and you can make a run while that jerk is screaming with hands on his eyes :*laughs* remember to aim at the eyes!
E) Good Friends –
Everyone have friends. Primary school friends, secondary friends, college friends, working friends, online friends, there are actually a lot out there. But to find true sincere friends among them… 2 to 3 person is good enough, because you will
need them in future for help. What kind of help? For exp : 1) A shoulder to cry on whenever you met a bast^#d guy and had a broke up, believe me, that time you might feel that is the end of the world and calling one of your best friend out to cry your heart out is the best solution. 2) House moving. If let’s say you’re from out state.. and you wanted to move out to another place, you will really need a few friends to help you out.
3) Shopping & movies buddie. I my self really enjoyed hanging out with my girl friends because is stress relieving and it’s fun eating, shopping, movies, and drinking together!
Isn’t having friends are great? *smiles*
F) Increase Of Knowledge –
We don’t only gained knowledge in school, each and everyday we learned. Of course having a good foundation such as a degree in business do help a lot in your future, but besides that, we can increase our knowledge through life experience. Let’s say a kid playing with fire, and he got his finger burned and he screams in pain. So the next time whenever he sees fire, he knows that fire is dangerous and he would not dare to play with it again. The same goes with adulthood. A lady met a fu^%$\#g con man that cheats her love and money away and left her. She had the worst heartbroken ever. But after that, whenever she’s into relationship again, she knows how
to differentiate within a man that is sincere to her or have bad intention towards her through his actions and words. She has becoming smarter in terms of self defense of her own heart. Me my self have came across this matter before, and I don’t blame God or fate asking in tears “WHY?? WHY ME?? DON’T YOU SEE THAT I’M SO PITIFUL?” Instead, I gave thanks to God. If these bad experience didn’t happen to me, I will never learned to be a smarter person in future, and I will stay as naive as I am always…
Apart from that, we can also gained lots of knowledge through reading. ‘Self improvement Books’ is one of my favorite. It tells us a lot on which expect we need to improve our self to cope up better in the society. There are a few books actually do help in going through my depression in 2009. Trust me, I think differently right after I finish reading those books. The chi of positiveness rush through every cells in my brain. That is why I just love reading a lot *smiles* Either than these category of books, there are books on traveling tips, cooking, body language (very interesting! Recommended to buy), about health caring and a lot more!.. make books 1 of your best friend. You will never regret to spend on them because they really worth it!
G) Alert to everyone around you –
I’m not trying to ask you being a paranoid that walks around looking left and right non-stop thinking that someone will murdered you soon. *laughs* The world outside may look beautiful…but at the same time…there are lot’s of people with bad intentions around. You won’t know or can’t tell with your eyes by just looking at them because they are not going to write “I’M A BADASS!” on their
Forehead :p Even when you’re in a new working place, new group of friends, and having a new love of your life, always be alert to what they say, body language, and their reaction in what you trying to ask them. Exp : How many exes you have in your life before me? He answered : 5 they all left me (make a sad face at you) Conclusion : trust only 50%. Reason: Is impossible all girls left him unless he have way too many problems. If he’s good, he would have married by now. In addition 5???? He might be a con man with collections of women! And he make a sad face to you is to gain pitty from you that he’s innocent, and he’s creating the love trap waiting for you to fall into it. I’m not trying to say that all men who say and do this are confirmed thinking the same way… that is the reason I say trust only 50%... we’ve no choice babe.. the world is so deceiving…this is also another step of self protection.
Besides men.. some bi%#hes out there in work place can pretend to be your bff
But actually all she wanted is to kick you out from the department so that she will gained every chance to climb the career ladder all by herself. For example, she might offer to help you in your work… asking about your salary… getting close to you on purpose during each lunch time, asking every detail of your background and personal life,convince you that she’s a new friend that you can trust on and she won’t tell anyone about your secret. When the time of bonus paying and position arrangement in your office, there goes… the next morning as you walk into the office, all eyes are on you and they are busy whispering to each other. Why is it so? Because the BIT#H which you already trusted her to be your best buddie in office have spread each and every detail about your lifetime secret to the whole department just to wears you down and gone is your reputation and also fat chance in raising of position if the rumors are bad enough to reach your boss’s ears.
So the next time you ever encounter some people same sex or opposite sex around you that treat you extra nice or trying to make you to trust her 100%. Just be careful, look at their body language (buy a book on that. Is usefull),asked a few questions… before you decide that he or she can be trusted to keep your secret.
To be honest, there are not only 7 tips for a lady to survive in the society safe and sound.These are only 7 tips that I’ve learned through out my life so far, and I’m still learning new skills and tips of survival every day in my life now. There are a lot lot more to learn out there in the dark and deceiving world~~…*jst kidding, laughs* It’s not as bad as we thought. Life could be beautiful if you really met the right friends, the right man, and most of all your beloved family will never set traps on you *smiles* This topic is just
about surviving tips that’s all … *winks*
CPW- By Ice Queen.
