Valentine’s day has just been over for about few days ago right? *smiles* hope u gals have fun & romantic ones from your other halve.
Anyway, this is not a very good month for me, am not going to review what happened, but I’m going to share my own opinion about “Love” here.
What Is Love? A feeling of warmth, happiness, joyful and you wouldn’t want it to end. It is amazing that we can feel love because God create us with feelings. Love is not just with our lover, but also from within our own family, God, & best friends.
If explained in religious definition, here it is :-
Love Is Patient,
Love Is Kind,
Love isn’t Jealous,
It Doesn’t Sing its own praises,
It Isn’t Arrogant,
It isn’t rude,
It Doesn’t Think About It Self,
It Doesn’t Irritable,
It Doesn’t Keep Track Of Wrongs,
It Isn’t Happy When Injustice Is Done,
But It Is Happy With The Truth,
Love Never Stops Being Patient,
Never Stops Believing, Never Stops Hoping,
Never Gives Up, Love Never Comes To An End.
(Corinthians 13: 4-8.)
Now what is being “being ourself”? Do you love yourself, for who you are, how you looks like? And everything in you? If me, I’ll answer yes, because God created us with different character and that what makes us unique.
Here in this chapter, me ice queen would like to apologize for criticizing and judging other guys that have many flaws in them. After what I’ve experience through love, I realize that I don’t have the rights to judge anyone, Only God does..
Can I share some situations here with you gals? :-
How far would you go if you would have to choose between loving someone & being yourself? Let’s say He loves you because you are pretty, and being a “yes girl” always to him and you love him very much.
The fact is, this is only the outer surface of yourself that you let him sees in you. You hope that by doing this he will love you more. Each time you are about to go out on a date with him, you have to make sure you dress perfectly, puts on very nice make up to cover all your flaws, and then lastly your “cover”. What cover? The ‘yes girl’ of you. You kept telling yourself you can do this forever because you love him so much and he means a world to you. The fact is the real self of you is not like that at all.. you use to go out freely with just light make up, dress T-shirts & shorts to kopitiam with your buddies, you like outdoors, you dislike spicy food, you dislike too cold places, you likes sharing your own opinion in a group, you like going to parties.. YOU are a girl with your own character since ever childhood till now.
Would you sacrifice being yourself and change 360* to suite your lover? If your answer is yes, how long would you be this different person that you’re trying to be? Will you be happy forever with him?
Short term effect :
Yes, indeed you are living in cloud 9 everytime you’re with him and he loves you to bits because he thinks that you like whatever he likes and you hate whatever he hates. You thought you succeed in “love” already, and this will be forever love..
Long term effect:
No, each time he calls you out, you feels stressful.. you have to be the perfect girl and listen to his every wants, and whenever you did a mistake out of his wish your heart pounded fast and panickly think whether he would be angry at you or not? Will he stop loving you because you didn’t follow his wish? He starts ignoring my calls.. *cries* izzit I did something wrong??
These long term effect will just grew more and more painful as time goes by… because from the first day you’re with him, you cover yourself with perfection and he is loving some1 not you all the while.
Sad to say…you won’t last long pretending and acting Ms. Nice everyday when you’re with him babe.
Because no one can stop being themselves unless we’re on the stage doing a drama. To one point… you will start to get tired of the “role” you kept on bringing along with you…and that is the time you should review yourself to him. Your true self. If he stil loves you, he’s the one for you and that is “True Love” if he find you really different from what he really wanted in a girl.. then is time to leave and move on with your own self. I’m sure God will meet us with the perfect match in future… we just don’t have to cover ourself to love someone.
Anyway, that is just my individual opinion, and maybe out there… there are girls that willing to sacrifice being their own self for someone that they love too much, and they will feel satisfied. Maybe that is because love is blind.
But if it’s me, I would have fail to do that, that’s because I just love being myself… being someone that God wanted me to be *smiles* Is painful to let go loving someone not compatible with us, but is even more painful to stop being our own self..
By : Ice Queen (CPW-reserved)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN6Z2VUOmZI
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